Substance Abuse Prevention Taking Action VII
This week’s topic is “Social Competencies.” Social competencies is the building blocks for a successful future. The ability to think critically, to have empathy, to be confident enough in ourselves to stand up for what we believe in and say no even when it is hard, to be able to resolve conflict before it escalates and the ability to know and be at peace with who we are and respect others in their diversity.
Infancy is where the learning begins, these babies will learn how to share, how to get along, and how they are different from each. If the baby in the blue were to take the orange away from piggy tails how do you think she would react? Will she throw a fit, fight to get the orange back? What if your child is older though and he/she has trouble getting along with others? It is never too late to teach our children or even adults the necessary skills to be successful.
Recently I attended an Influencing Styles workshop that helped us to identify what are influence style type is. There are five types: rationalizing, asserting, negotiating, inspiring and bridging. If you rationalize your ideas are based on logical, rational reasons, if you are assertive you make sure that your ideas are heard, if you are a negotiator you look for compromise, if you influence via inspiring others you encourage full-participation from all participants, and if you influence via bridging you build relationships and connect with others through listening, understanding and building coalitions. Prior to taking this test I would have said that I rationalize and negotiate. I was surprised to see that inspiring and bridging were also part of my influence style with a smidgeon of assertiveness. The point is that my experiences have helped me to diversify my skills, because no matter how old we are we are NEVER to old to learn.
How can you help to build a child’s social competencies for:planning and decision making, interpersonal competence, cultural competence, resistant skills, and peaceful conflict resolution?by